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What I expected

For years, I tried, to be the PERFECT parent. I would desire my children to make "right" choice, and do the "right" thing, and behave the "right" way. I have come to realize there is no such thing! In the past I felt like a failure on many days. I spent too much time yelling and controlling outcomes. I often responded from a place of feeling tired. Cancel clear that old story. 

With all the different personalities AND all the different parenting methods and styles( and I studied many of them). How could ONE be RIGHT, the PERFECT way and the rest be WRONG?

Conclusion: They aren't and they can't. Cancel clear, cancel clear!

Parenting is more about loving directing and loving accepting and cheering each other on. 

A Lesson from Beginning to Walk

When a child begins to take their first steps and then they fall, we do not get upset, we do not correct, we do not discipline. If fact we do the opposite. We jump for joy, say terms of praise and hugs the child for trying! Often the excitement startles the child, because it is so energetic.( you know what I am talking about).

What if we approached our parenting like this, like our child taking their first step. What if people cheered us on for trying,

"Wow, great attempt". "You were so brave to try that", . encouraged us/them to try again, Hugged us/them when we/they fell down. 

Today, for instance, Nikita filled her own water bottle, and upon doing so spilled a bunch of water on the counter. My response on occasion has been to get upset for the mess, however when I can see from this new perspective, I can celebrate her success in getting her own water. I can cheer her on, I can help her see that the water can easily be cleaned up and help her to do that, if required. 

Even having both partners in agreement on how to respond or react to situations can create interesting experiences.

Moving on to why I decided to post here today....

Getting on the Same Page

I have found certain things have helped our family run a little smoother and to help up be on the same page.

One that I feel has been most effective and helpful. It is having a Family Council. My favorite Scripture is Counsel with the Lord in ALL thy doings, and He will direct thee for good-Alma 37:37

Big Corporations don't run successfully on whims and willy nilly ideas. They have meeting, they discuss, options and possible outcome, they vote on actions to be taken.

Our family is our most important unit and, if you are like me, we desire for our family to run smoothly as well. We all, each family member has something to contribute.

Having a weekly meeting to discuss...

  1.  our successes, so we can cheer each other on

  2. Our week so we make sure all schedules are figured out to run smoothly

  3. Our Challenges are brought up and reviewed in a safe way

  4. Solutions from all members are presented and analyzed

  5. One is selected and voted on, In our home we must all agree for us to move forward with the option.

  6. And we also plan any family events

We take turn conducting and everyone has a chance to voice their ideas and input.

I also found this book to be super helpful " The Secrets of Happy Families" 

You can grab a template for holding your own family council here.  and 

you can listen to a clip of how we use this tool here.

Check out my video for the upgraded version here..

I invite you to grab this FREE valuable resource and try it with your family today...the results will be well worth it!

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From Failing at Everything to Reaching My Dreams

 
It seems ages ago now but it really wasn't that long ago that I was in a very different place than I am now. In 2012 I was in a very negative place. It seemed nothing in my life was going my way. I had made choices that went against what I believed and this added too negative state of mind. Try as I might I just could not seem to get out of it. Everything I thought and everything I said was negative. It just seemed to flow out of me. I felt out of control and didn't know what to do about it.

Hi, My name is Tammy Hawksworth, I am a wife to Troy, my hero husband, a mother to six amazing children- two boys and four girls, one is special needs with something called Cri Du Chat syndrome, and a grandmother to six energetic grandbabies( although none are babies anymore) - three boys and three girls,and  I am a wellness promoter and mentor.

I found my way out of the dark abyss I was in and I never want to see anyone else get to that place or worse and I now share what I have used to help me,to help others

A little history, I had two failed marriages, I was a wanna be stay at home mom that now felt I had to work outside the home to make ends meet, having a special needs child, I believed I needed to be home for, and  my now hubby, had off the charts chronic pain and a brain injury that resulted in short term memory loss from an accident from almost 20 years ago. I felt I had to constantly be a broken record, repeating everything I said either to my daughter or my hubby. Add my negative mindset and it was not a fun place.

Then one day in my kitchen, an interesting thing happened, I dropped something and made a mess on the floor. One of my children came in and said "you're a bad mom!" On any other day, this wouldn't have phased me but this was from a child who normally never said anything like that and it made me do a double take and really think about it. "was I a bad mom?" I only ever wanted to be the best mom I could be. I grew up just wanting to be a" mom", so after a brief moment, I responded with " I'm not a bad mom because I spilled something." "I'm a great mom, I care about your well being, I teach you right from wrong, and I love you, that makes me a great mom"

Little did I know that those words would be a key to changing something in me that set me on the path to getting out of my negativity and my deep dark abyss.

I was using affirmations! I didn't know it, but I was.I have since learned that our words we think and our words we speak have more power than most people ever  realize.

Then as life does, when we shift gears,  I  was then introduced to some online training that helped me learn more tools to help me get back on track. And shortly after that I was beginning to be introduced to essential oils. Again, little did I know how huge a benefit these would be in helping the tools I was learning, take effect in record time.

I now spend my time sharing these tools and these oils with anyone wanting to improve their mental, emotional, spiritual and physical wellness, because when you shift gears and change your path and change your direction, you change your life!

I have an interesting household, where there is rarely a dull moment, but when you go from being a couch potato, and not able to get energy to do pretty much anything- to being motivated to accomplish anything I set my mind to, I just can't keep that to myself. The changes for good in my life and the goals I am achieving are due to these things.
Want to know more, then stay tuned, I have so much to share!

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